I just came across this quote from someone who I suspect is the sort of "new-age hippie" the church used to warn us about back in the 80s.
"Spiritual abuse is abuse of the spirit of another human being. We abuse the spirit... by teaching, either covertly or overtly, that that spirit, that soul, that Self, cannot be trusted and/or must be negated in the name of someone’s or some organization’s notions of reality, righteous living, or safe living."
"If we only do what those in leadership over our lives tell us to do when we agree with them, it is not called submission, but rather “doing our own thing.” We must invite leadership into our lives and learn to trust them more than we trust ourselves." [Emphasis added]
When I contrast the two, I'm left with the question, "Does the church create and promote an environment which all but guarantees abuse?"